FAMILY VS. FRIENDS . . . ARE YOU CONFUSED ??? READ ON :)

I confronted one of the most important questions which teens generally come across. Where it becomes hard for them to choose one !!. I wish and think that my blog will help you out. Read on and decide, listen to what your heart says :)

I agree that there are talks and things which you can’t share with your family, people say that there are secrets which cannot be shared with family. Like your first crush, your first affair, your love life, your first date & the list goes on. It’s good to be around with people of same age as yours as they have the same mindset and they share the same energies with you. I agree due to generation gap many of us have never shared our secrets with our family, but if you try to share each and everything with them I bet they will understand you, they always do that!! It can never be ignored that whenever in trouble they defend us and in joy they celebrate with us. Our Family stands with us no matter what. It’s a relationship which stands beside us for no reason, NO REASON AT ALL!! They love you, treat you as your own, show you right way, stand with you all the time be it good or bad, encourage you, and make you believe in your dreams, help to chase them (dreams), and try to provide the best of your lives, without expecting anything in return. They love us unconditionally and wish to see us happy and successful. If they restrict us doing something it’s for our good only, we may not like and offend their decision at that time but in the end, after years have passed, we do realize the fact that it was for our good only. They sacrifice everything to see you happy and make you smile. They always wish to see you progress and achieve the heights of success.

Friends are indeed important!! But they stand at different place when it comes to relationships. They hangout with you, they party hard with you, they stroll and make you happy all the time. But when you are with your family they make you feel comfortable and complete, secure and loving, moreover when we have friends who care and share and stands through all the ups and downs of our life we start considering them as family, remember the punch line?? “tum to ghar ke hi ho, tumhse kya chupana!” which translates “you are as my family, there is nothing that I’ll hide from you!!”.

To me it’s easy to find a friend in family, than finding a family in a friend. My mom is my friend who cares, shares, assures and secures. My dad is my friend, philosopher and guide to me who encourages all the time to chase my dreams, no matter how hard it is !! My brother is my friend who teases, fights, gets angry, shouts all the time but then in end of the day brings me a box full of chocolates shares and eats with me. Friend’s do have an important place in any one’s life but not more than a family. Family member can forego their dreams and career for you, I hardly see any friend doing that in today’s world!!!

Moreover it’s not all about blood relations, it’s all about the depth of understanding you share with them  :-) Friends do hold an important part but if you ask me to choose one from them I will always say “Family Comes First”

Thank You.

Country Girl :-)

"In Darkest Shades Of Life"

There are times. . . 

When you wish to stop breathing, . .

When you wish to stop believing, . .

When you wish to curl all your desires and dreams, . .

When you wish to stop expecting things from life. . .

When you wish to stop thinking, . .

When you wish to stop laughing, . .

When you bring yourself to a state where nothing works. . .

When you don’t wish to listen ringing of bells in the world. . .

When you hate the melody of the bird singing out in the shade. . .

When you think when life should stop !!

When nothing goes right !!

You miss something. . .

You probably miss that charm. . .

You miss that light. . .

But you don’t know exactly what that charm it is !!

When we wish to cry. . . cry aloud. . .loud enough so that he can hear us. . . can hear us clearly up above in the heavens. . . and helps to heal us. . . .

When we know that, that supernatural power is keeping a watch on us. . . from heavens. . . and counting down. . our tears. . .When we yearn inside. . . deep down in heart. . . mourning to discover that charm. BUT. . .

WE BELIEVE. . . believe in that supernatural power. . . though we have never seen him. . . but we have faith. . . deep inside we know he is standing by us every hour . . . every single second of life !!! Fold your hands and pray. . thank him for every breath he gave. . for every struggle he gave. . .for every turmoil. . . .pray to him to give a stronger back so that you bear all the worst of world !!

 Country Girl.

Change: An Inevitable Process

“In the world that I seldom understand, there are winds of destiny that blow when we least expect them. Sometimes they gust with a furry of hurricane; sometimes they barely fan one’s cheek. But the winds cannot be denied, bringing as they often do a future that is impossible to ignore.” ~ "Message in the Bottle"

How lovely, true & b’tful these lines are. Actually was going through a novel by Nicholas Sparks “Message in the bottle” and came across these lines. Wondering how simply and beautifully the author have penned down words in lines to make them wonderful and serene. How easily winds change everything, who else than me can know it. Where I was few years back and where I am standing now, anyone can figure it out easily (Anyone = People who know me personally . . .uh uh uh is there anyone so ?? NO a BIG BIG NO!!!). Although I took the road less traveled which lead me to the place where I am standing right now. The inner soul of any person needs tranquility of mind, self revere and amicable ambiance. Men on earth have found numerous ways to tackle and travel the awkward situation which they confront in life. Meditations, yoga asans, activities like dancing, singing, painting, and the list go on . . . he finds inner serenity in the act which satisfies him, gives him pleasure & peace, both outer and inner (mine is writing). The things which happen in our life are pre-determined. No one can change it, except strong will, strong perseverance and very strong yearning to achieve one’s fascination. If change leads you to the dusk, your valor can turn it into dawn (backed up by personal experience). It all simply depends on person’s attitude and way of tackling the situation, which he is going through. Some take it as challenge-a new beginning while some take it as end. It solely depends on you how you take it in your mind. Life is a roller coaster ride, if you are witty enough you surely gonna enjoy the ride and on the same side if you are dull you will miss the charm of life. Change is although an inevitable process, but when you take it as a challenge, a new beginning, you are going to win for sure. So my friend be highly optimistic about things going around and enjoy life as if it is the last moment to live. Laugh, live, transform and smile J (I really think The Universe is with me; refreshed my twitter timeline & the first tweet which I saw was from “@TheGodLight” which writes “CHANGE IS THE RULE OF LIFE. NOTHING STAYS THE SAME FOREVER. EVERYTHING WILL CHANGE SO ACCEPT THIS AND ENJOY LIFE.”

Thanks & Regards,

Country Girl.

"MAAWAN THANDIYAAN CHAAWAN"

“MAANVAN THAINDIYAAN CHAANWAAN”

***(MOTHERS LOVE AND AFFECTION IS AS DIVINE AS THE COOL SHADE WE GET FROM TREES***

“MAA” is perhaps the first word which every baby speaks. Either small or a grown up lad; every one screams “Aaah Maa” when they get hurt accidently, which justifies that how divinely a child is attached with his mother!!!

The relation between a child and a mother is beyond words, mere twenty six letters and few thousands of words can never be enough to describe the heavenly, pure and serene bond of a mother and a child.

Mom encourages when a child fears..

Mom helps when child refuses to stand up…

Mom scolds when child chooses a wrong path to walk on…

Mom explains life when the terms are not smooth…

Right from the birth of child she gives her every single minute to her child. Mom leaves her dreams behind just to ensure that she is able to give that love, care and affection which her child deserves. A maiden when gets married bids good-bye to her dreams and devotes her entire life to the family she joins. And when that married woman transforms into a Mother, her thoughts, her actions, her dreams her wishes and her desires revolves around her child and her family. She takes care of her child every single moment. She answers every single and funny question. She makes her child understand how world is. She helps child see the beauty of nature. From a young girl she turns into a moral pillar, supporter, friend, helper, guide, philosopher and many more.. just for her child, instilling all the good values and ethics in her child. She bestows her child with all the possible happiness in the world which she can afford.

Moms are just like a good “Gardner” who takes care of the tree throughout its life, right from the time when it was a seed till it transforms in to a HUGE tree, till the end of her last breath. She even scolds us for our betterment. Moms are like painter who paints a beautiful portrait by instilling all the good values in us and helps us make ourselves a beautiful soul in and out.

Have heard many times people saying that they never met any angel from god. I just wonder why they were not able to see the lovely angel sent directly from heaven to take care of them right from the moment they started to breathe !!!!

Throughout her life, she wakes up early in the morning just to get you ready for school, she cooks for you so that you stay up healthy and fit, she washes your clothes so that you look neat, tidy and smart, she works day and night just to see you smile and contended with life, just to ensure that you stay and live happily in a comfort zone.

Right from the morning till night----“Maa mera nashta…Maa meri tie…Maa meri files…Maa mere joote….Maa Khana bahot bookh lagi hai please aaj aaloo ke parathe banana….Maa mere kapde press karwa dena…Maa kal jaldi utha dena…Maa main yaha jaau ??? ….Maa muin kya karoon ??? …Maa kuch samajh nahi aa raha…..” and it is a never ending list….

She stands for you all the eighteen hours throughout her life just to make sure you reach at your school or office without any delay. She never asks for anything extra, she just wishes you to be happy J she just wishes you to achieve your dream and helps you to fulfill it selflessly without any demands.

Guys do you really think that a single day is enough to thank her !!!!

I think No, how can be one single day in a year be dedicated to MOM !!!! who lives for us every day and night throughout her life…

My idol, Chef Vikas Khanna says “EVERYDAY IS A MOTHERS DAY” I totally agree with his words from my hearts core.

I said earlier too mere words can never describe the divine, devotional, selfless and loving relationship of mother and her child.

To those who all read my blog, a very BIG THANKS TO YOU. I now modestly request you to log off from here and call/talk/write to your mom the very next moment and thank her for everything the pain she carried while bringing you up and bringing the best out of you !!! Go..you never know your one call/letter will make her happy…!!!!!

It’s not necessary to wish mumma on a particular day only…take up a moment and make it Mothers Day for you and your Mumma J

#MyWordsToMyMamma :-

“Maa,

Thanks for understanding my unspoken words & untold story;

Thanks for understanding my hidden feelings and desire;

Thanks for making me dream;

Thanks for understanding my silence;

Thanks for understanding my eyes;

Thanks for believing in me;

Thanks for making me believe in me;

Thanks for supporting me every time;

Thanks for making me a beautiful soul;

Thanks for making me understand who I really am;

Thanks for making me real ME;

Thanks for everything MAA, I am ME just Because of YOU MAA”

I love you Maa…I love you Paa”

I would also like to share beautiful words of my friends whom I met only a month ago, but share a strong bond as if we know each other from years!!! I am truly blessed to have you guys in my life.J

Shilpa Goel--->>>

She writes, “ThankYou  GOD for MOM. She is a woman of strength and dignity. When she speaks, her words are wise and kindness is the rule for everything she says J Thinking all the things that make you a wonderful MOM, and thanking God for everyone of them. Happy Mother’s Day MOM…

With lotzzz of love Shilpa”

And another one from Sonia---

She writes “Mother..My strength, my best friend, my mentor. She is the one you can always count on for inspiration and motivation. She protects her children from all the harm and evils in the world. A mother’s love is unlimited and cannot be measured or weighed! All she asks in return is love.. Such a small request from a woman with such a bug heart! My mother is my pillar of strength, she is someone I look up to and I know that she will always be there for me at all times. I am grateful to God for sending such beautiful Angel to me, and I will forever cherish and love her”

P.S---Sonia & Shilpa if you guys are reading my blog I am sure you might me smiling wide ..I said naa we trio are having some heavenly connection …thoughts match so much !! I don’t know what it is, how it is and why it is…but whatever it is I love it J

"DARE TO DREAM"

"Dream, dream and dream..!!! Because dreams do come true..!!!"

"Yes my friends, dreams do come true. Wait, wait, hang on…am not talking about all the irrational dreams which randomly cross your mind; nor am talking about the one which you see while taking a nap either in noon or night. I’m talking about a dream, which do not allow you to close your eyes until you achieve it. ‘Am talking about a dream which takes your breath away, which forces you to do something, something extra-ordinary which compels you to achieve that dream at any cost. A dream that ignites your inner soul; ignites your mind and body at the same time. A dream which do not allows you to sleep peacefully until unless you achieve it, acquire it and turn it into reality from mere an imagination. Everyone dreams. And this is very natural phenomenon which happens to everyone who dwells in this mighty world. If you are not dreaming, then my friend I’m bit afraid, afraid from the fact that you are not living your life. Dream leads a person to the place where he could have never thought to reach. It inspires, aspires, arouses the inner soul to the level of self realization and persuades him to do something in life. It helps the person to do different things, which no one would ever thought of doing or no one would have ever expected him of doing. No matter in what position or situation you are right now, your dream will surely take you to heaven (I mean the place where you wish to reach). Dreams do not see the person; it doesn't emerge from the verity that you are at this moment. It just comes, comes straight from your heart, from your inner soul, which encourages you to do any damn thing in your life. That is the reason I often say to people around me, “DARE TO DREAM; DREAMS DO COME TRUE!!” Dare to dream, because a dream keeps you live and rejuvenates your body and soul. And that’s the reason I love to dream. Dreams are the only hope, which gives you reason to do something; it can be of any kind, from owning a BMW, a big house near the sea where windows faces the shore, a lovely garden in front and farm in abut. Aha!!! Peaceful place to live in isn't it??? P.S -- this was my personal dream, would love to hear from you people, what kind of dream you possess??? Keenly waiting for your response."